I am trying to be Christian, however, I know that adultery is a sin….but, if I am legally divorced (irreconcilable differences), we just argued and fought alot verbally and sometimes physically, would dating be okay? Neither one of us has cheated. I need to know the facts, the real truth.
Thank you 🙂
It doesn’t matter who was at fault, God said that He hates divorce. Jesus said that remarriage is adultery.
When two people who have never married before say their marriage vows which includes the words “til death do us part, they are making covenant vows to God. They will stay married for life until one of them dies. Marriage vows are a covenant and not a contract as the divorce courts would like for us to believe.
Divorce between covenant spouses (meaning first marriage for both) is absolutely wrong. God himself said that He hates divorce.
“Have we not all one Father? Did not one God create us? Why do we profane the covenant of our fathers by breaking faith with one another? Another thing you do: You flood the Lord’s altar with tears. You weep and wail because he no longer pays attention to your offerings or accepts them with pleasure from your hands. You ask, ‘Why?’ It is because the Lord is acting as the witness between you and the wife of your youth, because you have broken faith with her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant. Has not the Lord made them one? In flesh and spirit they are his. And why one? Because he was seeking godly offspring. So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith with the wife of your youth. ‘I hate divorce,’ says the Lord God of Israel. So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith.” Malachi 2:10-16
Remarriage, according to Jesus, is adultery between non-covenant spouses.
‘Haven’t you read,’ he replied, ‘that at the beginning the Creator made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh?’ So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate. ‘Why then,’ they asked, ‘did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?’ Jesus replied, ‘Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery.'” Matthew 19:4-8
Let me warn you that the exception clause of marital unfaithfulness was not in the original Greek manuscript. It was added to the manuscript in the 15th century by Erasmus. Jesus gave no excuse for divorce period!
“By law a married woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law of marriage. So then, if she marries another man while her husband is still alive, she is called an adulteress. But if her husband dies, she is released from that law and is not an adulteress, even though she marries another man.” Romans 7:2-3
So then, the Bible is clear that marriage is a permanent covenant, only to be broken by death of one of the spouses. In spite of clear doctrine to support no divorce, divorce still happens. What if you are a victim of divorce against your wishes? What does the Bible have to say about this?
“To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.” 1 Corinthians 7:10-11
If you are divorced, you only have two options: remain single or reconcile with your spouse. Remarriage is not an option for a believer. Today people debate the issue, “Is it right to divorce and remarry?” Note that Jesus dealt with the issue, “Is it right for people to divorce?” That is quite a contrast! We have strayed far from God’s Word. It saddens me to see the number of professing Christians that are divorcing and remarrying. It is time for the body of believers to get back to God’s ideal for marriage and stop the rampant divorce rate throughout the world. As believers, we are responsible to follow and obey the teachings of Jesus: “If you love me, you will keep my commandments. ” John 14:15
I have personally met several women whose eyes were opened when they read these words in their Bible and realized they were not in a covenant marriage, but in adultery. Their husbands had previously been married to their covenant wives. So they had to legally divorce their husbands to get out of their adulterous marriage.
I would like to mention that preachers have the 2nd highest rate of divorce and remarriage. The church has failed absolutely miserably in this area. Some preachers do know the truth, but refuse to say anything in fear of losing their congregation and money and some are too blinded to see the truth and go along with the world’s view that it is ok to be divorced and remarried.
So, if you and your husband are covenant spouses (regardless of the divorce papers) then no, it is not okay to date. Dating opens the door for possible remarriage, which is adultery.
You can only get married again if he committed adultery. Otherwise in God’s eyes you would still be living in adultery. It doesn’t say you cannot get divorced. But if you want to remarry the divorce had to be for that one reason… adultery.
As a Christian, you are not supposed to divorce unless one of you committed adultery. Go see a marriage counselor!
OKAY…. THIS IS MY THOUGHTS TO U. IN THE BIBLE IT SAY THAT THE ONLY TIME TWO PEOPLE SHOULD GET A DIVORCE IS IF ONE PERSON HAS COMMITITED A SIN AGAINST THE MARRAGE… BEING AS IF HE CHEATED OR BEAT YOU, OR SUMIN BAD LIKE THAT… NOT JUST BECAUSE YOU ALL DONT GET ALONG… BUT IF YALL DID GET A DIVORCE…. THEN I GUESS U CAN DATE,… UR NOT MARRIED NO MORE…
Jesus came so that we might have life and have it more abundantly!
If you are divorced…for whatever the reason…LIVE!
Date whoever you choose to date and…LIVE!
My ex-husband was financially irresponsible and I refused to LIVE like that.
So…I divorced him and I began to LIVE my own life!
Now, I’m LIVIN’ my life like it’s golden and I’m enjoying myself!
Oh, yeah…I’m a Christian, too!!!
If you are legally divorced and you date it is not committing adultry.
There is no real answer. It depends on how deep your faith is and how much you believe the bible.
I think it’s fine, but I’m not devoutly religious either. It’s all in what you can live with..